Wedding anniversary

It feels like only yesterday, a year has passed by when we got married according to the Rai customary culture. My eyes well up with tears with a trepidation while reminiscing the memorable day. It was a cool morning when Rabin's family came to my home for my hands. After the ritual was over, I along ewith my cousin i.e lokandi, were taken to Hattiban, Jawalakhel. While I was being escorted to Rabin's relatives I had a mixture of excitement and nervousness that appeared on my face. I was adorned in a dulhei's outfit and was feeling uncomfy in sari as that was my first time to wear sari. My soon -to- become husband was helping me with the sari's achal and my cousin was busy holding my hands.

The activities ended in few hours, after that we headed to my mum's home, aba ta mero ghar vannu nei milenah.

We were greeted by my relatives who were waiting us anxiously - for blessings - tika and dakshina. After the auspicious ceremonial moment at mum's home, time came for me to leave - to go to Rabin's house. I was all right , but when I saw my things were being packed/clothes were being wrapped I could not hold back my tears. I knew I had become someone's wife, my name Renu would be forgotten, I would be called by bhauju, kaki, buhari, tumma and so on instead of my name. As I bid goodbye and hugged my mum, I was releived by her tender motherly embrace. I on the otherhand, was weeping on my arms surreptiously. Time came for me to detached from my mum, I broke down and continued to walk on the decorated vehicle that would soon take us to Rabin's place. My cousin wiped my tears away as I sat next to her, I could harly bid goodbye to my family and relatives whose eyes perhaps might have welled up with tears. I was helpless and I felt so weak, Rabin on the otherhand was smiling as if he had just got a medal. I stared at him, took the handkerchief from my purse and blew my nose noisily. Soon my head throbbed, without my consent we were already in Sathdobato. We were ready for tika again - oh not again but dakshina is okay.

This auspicious day was held on 9th May 2007.